Table Of Contents
Chapter 1: Introduction
Chapter 2: How NLP Can Transform Your Life
Chapter 3: Be An Excellent Communicator With NLP
Chapter 4: Read The Other Person With NLP Eye Movement
Chapter 5: Understanding NLP Meta Model
Chapter 6: Anchoring Your Way To A Success State Of Mind
Chapter 7: Achieve Success Through NLP Modeling
Chapter 8: Effective NLP Reframing Techniques
Chapter 9: The Power of NLP Persuasion Techniques
Reframing Your Mind To Success
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Achieve Success Through NLP Modeling
The bodies of knowledge that is NLP came about by modeling successful people in their respective fields. The tools discovered in modeling these experts have become the tools themselves to expand complicated modeling processes.
What separates the founders Richard Bandler and John Grinder from the typical researchers is that they identified the structures and internal processes (most unconscious to the models themselves) as opposed to technical skills (other researchers focus), to arrive at the special sauce so to speak, that makes these people exemplary.
The inherent problem with these experts is they mistakenly attribute their success on their external skill sets instead of their inner-game methodologies. The goal of modeling is to identify these invisible structures, analyze it, and create a model that can be taught and replicated.
In order to successfully practice let alone excel in a discipline, one must possess the requisite trainings and experiences. The limitation of modeling is you cannot teach a layman to become an Ace (top fighter pilot) just by transferring the model’s internal processes, except if the subject has the basic competence to be reasonably good (but not exceptional) as a Jet Pilot.
Conversely, the structures you are able to extract from a good model can be transferred to someone else not necessarily in the same field. Modeling an Ace pilot, may translate well to a racecar driver, a policeman even to a basketball player depending on which sets of traits were modeled.
The 3 Phases of Modeling
This involves keen observation of the model and the sensory acuity to observe the internal process happening in the subject. This is where other NLP tools are crucial!
The culmination of all known NLP techniques to accurately dissect and breakdown the various parts, meta cognitions and processes, personal values, self-concepts, beliefs, capabilities, drivers etc. It is an interactive process where pinpoint information elicitations are necessary to extract all possible useful data.
Key Success Factors of The Model (The Special Sauce)
There are only a few components that make top performers perform the way they do, the challenge is determining which among those factors actually do contribute to the genius of the model.
For example, if a physician (the model) performs exceptionally well who happens to be both a combat medic and is exceptional in mathematics and has a degree in Engineering.
Is it the model’s IQ in mathematics that allows him to attack the medical problem with ease, or was it due to his battlefield experience as a combat medic that gives him the “survive at all cost” mentality,
streamlined custom treatment protocols he needed to save lives in the war zone? Or possibly, it is neither. Perhaps it is the physician’s intuition that allows him greater insight over normal doctors that lets him treat patients more expediently with lower mortality. All this data would be collected, analyzed and filtered for noise then tested for results.
Methodology in Transference of the Model
Having collected on the data including the sequencing of the model’s internal processes, the created model would have to be transferable and teachable.
It is not expected to perform exactly as well as the model-subject due to unaccounted for variances, personality, and situational uniqueness etc.; however, a sizable amount of the model-subject’s unique processes and results should be transferable and replicable, to determine if the model is a success.
Effective NLP Reframing Techniques
Neuro-Linguistic Programming Frames are arguably one of the most important concepts, if not the most important idea in the body of knowledge called NLP. There is an old adage that is drilled into every NLP practitioner; “The map is not the territory”. This means that our perception of reality is not the reality itself!
Everything that we experience in life are subjective, meanings are always attached to them that people are not consciously aware of. People live and buy into the Matrix, as if the map is real, not realizing they are viewing reality through interpretations or frames. Simply put, Frames are what puts meaning and context to occurrences and events in life. To have the ability to recognize and step out of the frame, and see it for what it is, is empowering enough! It loosens the grip on faux-reality.
Without frames, human beings will only live in the present, and experience life, just like animals, with no preconceived notions of past and future, relationships, and meaning. Everything becomes an isolated event, disconnected from everything. Frames are a necessity of existence. And those who know how to consciously control it, can control other’s perception of what they deem to be reality!
He Who Controls the Frame Controls the Game
Let us assume we cannot control the events that unfold for a given situation. Having limited to no control of the event, we can however still affect the experience of it! To change the meaning is to change reality itself. The very fiber of perceived reality!
You can reframe any part of an individual’s experience and mental construct whether it be his beliefs, identity or self-concept, personal values, actions, capabilities etc.
There are an infinite number of frames you can custom design (for the established NLP patterns please see Mindlines or Sleight of Mouth Patterns), but for simplicity it is helpful to phrase the problem for reframing work as X equals Y(complex equivalence) or X causes Y(Cause and Effect).
Let’s say the problem statement is “I am stupid(x), that’s why I can’t get promoted(y)” You can look at it from a Cause and Effect or Complex Equivalence manner and reframe accordingly.
My stupidity CAUSES failure to be promoted.
Not being promoted is synonymous with my stupidity.
Now seeing the problem clearly, we can now work on changing the meaning. You may change either X or Y or both!