Resolve To Help Yourself Through Helping Others E-book


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Table Of Contents

Chapter 1: Why Are We So Detached?
Chapter 2: Steps on How We Can Help Others
Chapter 3: Being a Mentor: How This Helps Us Help Others
Chapter 4: How Being Patient and Healing Ourselves Helps Other Go Higher
Chapter 5: Why it’s So Crucial to Help Others in Order to Help Ourselves

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Patience and healing Helps Others

Among the primary ways we can help other people to accomplish new inner growth is by outgrowing ourselves to help others go higher. To help us understand the wisdom in this new idea we must first think about additional equally important ideas. A good portion of the way we “see” ourselves is actually a provision of our relationships with acquaintances and loved one. For example, much of the way we evaluate the value of ourselves is secretly affiliated to those values we attribute to other people close to us.

We can help others reach higher by simply agreeing, consciously, to give them space to go through their changes even when these changes may challenge our sense of self and its well-being. As just one simple example of how to help in this way, we must each learn to keep ourselves quiet when the actions of someone close to us start to disturb us. Why is this new kind of self-silence so important for the growth of both parties involved?

To begin with, the disturbance that we feel in these moments is caused by a tremor in us. This is to say that our shaky sense of self is an effect of some picture we have held of this person as it hits the ground and shatters. Apart from our children, whom we must guide through their developing years, we need to learn to leave people alone with their decisions and corresponding actions. There is already a truth, a wisdom that supports this conscious course of action.

We already understand that no action of ours ever goes without its commensurate reward. This eternal principle is best known as karma, the great, inescapable law of cause and effect. This means it is our own nature — as the backstage parent of what prods us along in life — that determines what we experience as our life. So too is it with our family and friends… each receives what he or she is — no more, no less. This truth tells us why we must not only give them room to make the choices that they will, but then leave them alone to realize and experience the unique results of being who they are. How else can they learn and grow beyond themselves?

Understanding these truths mandates that we back off from being secretly on everyone’s back, that we give them the inner room they need to grow and discover themselves. The difficulty here is that in order to give others this space they need, we must first make room within ourselves.

To state this same idea differently, we must remove ourselves from our habitual inner places of judgments, opinions, and knowing better than anyone else. We have always called this place that must be left behind our “self.”

This conscious sacrifice of self — of who we conceive ourselves to be for the sake of who our friend or loved one is yet to be — gives new meaning to the beautiful ideal of “laying our life down for our brother.” This is how we help others to help themselves go higher… by daring to grow beyond ourselves.


These results may seem surprising, especially since our culture tends to associate happiness with getting something. Why should we humans be programmed to respond so positively to giving?

It’s Good to Help Others

These results may seem surprising, especially since our culture tends to associate happiness with getting something. Why should we humans be programmed to respond so positively to giving?
Group selection played a strong rule in human evolution. If something like helping benefits the group, it will be associated with pleasure and happiness. While evolution may have primed us to feel good from giving, it may not be the only reason helping others makes us feel better. Since depression, anxiety, and stress involve a high degree of focus on the self, focusing on the needs of others literally helps shift our thinking.

When you’re experiencing compassion, benevolence, and kindness, they push aside the negative emotions. One of the best ways to overcome stress is to do something to help someone else.
Even better, feeling good and doing good can combine to create a positive feedback loop, where doing good helps us to feel good and feeling good also makes us more likely to do good.

Numerous studies have found that happy people are more helpful as well. Those who’ve just found money in a phone booth are more likely to help a passerby with dropped papers. Those who feel successful are more likely to volunteer as a tutor.

It’s crucial in life to help others in life. In essence, not only does it make us feel good, it makes the other party feel good. It gives you a sense of fulfillment, and also creates a better feeling for the individual you’re helping. Whether it be donating, mentoring, or just giving someone a kind smile its good for our personal health and all around karma.
Wrapping Up

Remember, giving is a great way to help you feel all around good about yourself. It almost always helps the other party feel great as well. There are big things you can do like donating your time and knowledge by mentoring. You can also do small things like being there for a close friend or just giving someone a warm smile while walking down the street. We have a natural instinct to want to help others so get started today! Help others in order to help yourself!


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